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We hear it all the time. “He just won’t make a commitment.” “She just wants some space right now.” “I’m not sure if I’m ready for a serious relationship.”
What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are involved with, isn’t ready to take this relationship (or any relationship) to the next step.
So how do we know if we or our (hoped for) partner are truly afraid of commitment? How do we know that it’s not something else? Is there any real difference between these two anyway?
Do these excuses sound familiar? “I’m just under a lot of stress right now.” “It’s not you, it’s me.” “I can’t focus on a relationship right now because of my overloaded schedule.”
Very often, we want to accept these reasons because we fear the real truth. Other times, we are just very confused by our feelings and the often mixed messages from the other person.
So, how do we evaluate our ability to make a long-term commitment? How do we know if he/she is really ready or willing?
There are only two real issues here to examine.
The first issue involves looking at a true fear of commitment itself. If this is the problem it’s important for the person with this fear to ask themselves a few key questions.
Are you concerned about the idea of forever?
Do you fear you could make a mistake in who you choose?
Do you fear a loss of your freedom/autonomy?
Are you afraid of a bad marriage- like your parents for instance
Do you fear you would be a bad mate?
If you answered yes to any of these, it would be a good idea to begin working to
understand where these feelings come from. Once you understand them better, you can choose to address them.
Perhaps you need more time or emotional growth before you consider making
a long-term commitment.
If you’d like to deal with past relationship feelings, I have an article on this at http://www.consum-mate.com/02jul.htm.
If you are unsure if you are relationship ready, check out my article on this at http://www.consum-mate.com/03jun.htm
If lack of self-awareness is an issue, check out http://www.consum-mate.com/02aug.htm
Greater self-knowledge will help you to overcome this block to building a lasting and satisfying relationship.
The second issue is the inability to make a commitment to a PARTICULAR relationship. This may not be the right one. Perhaps there is a sense of this but it is written off to being a “commitment -phobe” in general.
Focus on the true level of involvement with each other. Is there a genuine connection? Or is there a vague feeling of something missing? Evaluate the quality of your intimate relating. This does not mean how often (or even how good) the sex is. This is about how open, sharing and real you are in your interactions with each other.
Does any of this sound familiar?
It seems like we are only killing time?
He/she doesn’t seem to want what I want.
We seem to be off and on in our level of contact/affection.
I hey are still not over a past relationship.
I hey just don’t seem to know what I hey want.
Remember to focus on the involvement or lack thereof between you. If either person is disengaged in any way, it’s time to address the real issue of; “Is this the right relationship for us?”
Exploring your ability to make a lasting commitment should be a first step in your plan for building a healthy and lasting relationship.
About the Author
Toni Coleman is a relationship coach in McLean,Virginia. She specializes in working with singles that want to create lasting, intimate relationships. She has also written numerous email classes for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands of subscribers monthly
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Dear Jen,
I have been dating a man I met online for just over a month now. When we first met, he told me that he doesn’t drink alcohol, and that is one of the things I liked about him after having been raised by an alcoholic father. The other night, when he came to pick me up for our date, I was sure I smelled alcohol on his breath. What should I do?
Signed,
Swimming in Gin
Dear Swimming in Gin,
I have to say first of all, that you need to be up front with him about this. Tell him about your concerns with alcohol and how it has effected you in the past. Remembering that you can’t change him is very important here. What you can do is change yourself and your choices. If he is going to choose to continue to drink and that is not something you can live with, it is maybe time to consider letting the relationship go before it gets even harder. One thing that I do want you to think about is whether or not he was lying in the first place. Maybe he was, or maybe he just went out that night and had an off-character moment and had a drink. Either way, be up front and honest with him and yourself. Your safety and sanity come first.
Good luck to you on your quest for love.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jennifer Lester is an online dating expert who offers her advice and guidance through the world of online dating at her website: http://www.lovepersonally.com - The tour guide to your online dating experience.
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Getting linked is the very simple concept of having other web
sites link to yours.
Notice I said ’simple concept’ not ’simple process’. It is a
lot of work to find sites that have a similar audience as
yours, then search their site to see if they even offer free
links to other sites, and then find contact information to
ask them to link to you.
Here are the top 5 excuses I have heard for not getting linked:
1. It takes way too much time
2. For every five I ask, I’m lucky if one actually links me
3. The sites that link to me always seem to have low traffic
4. I never get more than a few visitors a day from these links
5. I hate having to give a reciprocal link
My responses to these excuses:
1. Spend 30 minutes a day and find as many places as you can.
If you stay with it you will be amazed at how much you will
have accomplished after a couple of months.
Some days you may only find one or two sites, but on others you
will get lucky and find a place with dozens of resources listed.
You can then just visit each of those and wipe out a large
number at one time.
2. It is definitely a numbers game but if you don’t ask you
will never know if they would have linked to you or not. There
are also many factors that can better your chances of getting
a return link. I will go into more detail below.
3. Many times this will be the case because the sites with
tremendous traffic usually want you to advertise with them or
have equal traffic counts for a reciprocal linking arrangement.
Several points to keep in mind, though. First, some of these
sites may not stay small forever, and as their traffic grows
you will hopefully start to see more visits from them. The
other thing to keep in mind is that if you stick with this
you will end up with a couple hundred links in no time. If
each site sends you only one visitor per day that is an
additional couple hundred visitors that you didn’t have before.
And its free!
4. The answer here is basically the same as the last. Another
benefit of these links is boosting your link popularity for
search engine ranking.
5. Create a links page with links to other useful sites. Place
your reciprocal links on that page. Don’t bury the links page
but offer it as just one more valuable piece of content for
your visitors.
Some larger sites require a graphic or link on your main page
to consider your request. I typically skip these and go to the
next site, unless their link adds value to what I’m offering
on my main page and if there is a good chance I’ll get a great
deal of additional traffic from them. You can try it out for
awhile and if you aren’t comfortable with the arrangement,
just remove the graphic and let them know that they can re-
move your link from their site. At least you have given it a
try.
To look at it another way, if you sell advertising on your
site you are sending away some of your visitors in exchange
for money.
In a link exchange you might send away some of your visitors,
but in return you are getting additional traffic to your site.
Typically you would have to spend your own advertising dollars
to get this traffic anyway, so it is the same as if you had an
advertiser on your home page.
Besides, hopefully your site will be interesting enough to
keep them around for awhile, and when they are done, then they
will go and visit your links.
Now that we’ve covered the excuses, let’s look at how you can
increase your chances of getting linked from other sites.
First thing is that you really should have a quality site.
Don’t just throw together a page of banners and expect people
that have worked very hard to get the hundreds of thousands
of visitors to want to link to you. Your link adds no value
to their site.
The next important item is to personalize your email to them.
Actually take the time to visit their site and find something
that you like about it. Find contact information and even a
name if it is listed.
Find the specific category or page that you feel your site
would fit well on and mention that page specifically in your
email.
If they think your email is generic they’ll delete it right
away. I know I do. The latest fad is to use automated programs
to create theme pages and blast out automatic emails to every
site the program finds.
This may work to an extent but more than likely the only ones
that really benefit from this are the creators. The search
engines already know about this and have provisions to
penalize sites using these. Read through the second bulleted
topic on this page:
http://doc.altavista.com/adv_search/ast_haw_popularity.html
They have quickly gone the way of the FFA pages, or the Dodo.
If you make an honest effort at this you can expect a decent
return for your efforts. Look for shortcuts and your chances
of huge success are shorted.
The next logical question in all of this is how in the world
you find sites to link to you.
My favorite starting point is to find the sites that are
linking to my competition. If they are willing to link to my
competitor, they just might be willing to link to me too.
I use this great resource:
http://www.marketleap.com/publinkpop/
Its purpose is to show you how popular sites are in relation
to others, and it gives a ranking such as Player, Contender,
900 lb Gorilla, etc.
When you get to that link just enter in a couple of your
competitors, and your own URL as well, and click Generate
Report. This will show you how you rate as compared to your
competition.
The other nice feature is you can click on the results for
the domain for each of the search engines. Meaning, if it
found 200 links to a site listed in HotBot, you can just
click the number 200 in the listing and it will take you
to the HotBot results. Then you just visit each of those
sites, learn a little about them, then fire off an email
to the webmaster.
This method should give you a great start and keep you busy
for a while.
The bottom line is that there are many benefits to getting
other sites to link to you, just don’t let the excuses
keep you from getting linked!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Chuck McCullough is the owner of http://AffiliateMatch.com
offering FREE articles, tips, hints, and real-world advice
on how to make money with your website. Visit his site or
join his FREE newsletter, The AffiliateMatch Informer by
sending a blank email to
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Many people self-medicate because they feel they can’t afford the medications that are commonly used to treat bipolar disorder; however, in nearly all cases there is aid available to those with mental illness who need reduced price or free medications.
Others who are bipolar may self-medicate after years of medical care because of frustration stemming from the need to periodically readjust medications - they may feel that since the doctors can’t seem to get it right, they can probably “experiment” with it just as well themselves. This is extremely dangerous, though, because even small changes in drugs like Lithium and other drugs can lead to serious episodes or worse. With Lithium, small changes in dosage can lead to hallucinations, severe illness and even death. For this reason Lithium use should always be carefully monitored by a doctor with regular blood tests. If you self medicate incorrectly, you risk your life and you risk your health.
Others “self medicate” by using alcohol or drugs as a way to temporarily relieve their symptoms when they are in the grips of an episode of either mania or depression. Both of these are common responses that can have dangerous or fatal results.
When using drugs or alcohol while suffering a manic or depressive episode, you may temporarily feel better or at least feel like you are “numbing” yourself, but this is only an illusion. In reality you are blurring your sense of reality even further and inhibiting your ability to react properly to the world around even more. Your judgment is severely damaged. Combine this with the lack of common sense found in mania or the sorrow and lack of self-preservation found in depression and you have a recipe for disaster.
In fact, many people who have bipolar disorder aren’t diagnosed for years because they are too busy self-medicating with alcohol or drugs and don’t seek medical advice. In the meantime, since they aren’t being properly regulated, their manic phases aren’t being controlled. They are medicating themselves with booze and pills and still going into episodes of wild spending, promiscuous sexual activity and bizarre, risky behavior. They may lose spouses, friends, jobs and their life savings.
People who are depressed and bipolar will self-medicate to keep the depression at bay, but this actually only pushes the depression back temporarily. When it returns it can feel even worse, and will sometimes result in a suicide attempt or, in some instances, a successful suicide.
Obviously, self-medicating with drugs and/or alcohol doesn’t work. It doesn’t get rid of the symptoms of bipolar disorder, and in many cases they actually make the characteristics of an episode much worse, causing the extremes to be more violent or explosive.
If you don’t believe this, take a look at some examples of individuals who were not properly medicated who ended up in extremely bad situations. Some actual stories can be found at http://www.leverageteamllc.com/bipolarnews19/ . These include one where a woman in Palm Desert, CA ran over a man she referred to as, “road kill,” during a manic episode. In other stories, two unrelated shootings (one in Portland, ME and the other in Philadelphia, PA) were both tied to bipolar sufferers who weren’t properly medicated.
Please don’t take your situation into your own hands - you’ll be gambling with your own life and the life of others. Self medicating isn’t the answer. A licensed, professional doctor’s supervision and prescription medication is the only way to adequately control bipolar disorder effectively.
About the Author
David Oliver is the founder of BipolarCentral.com a one stop source of information on how to cope and deal with bipolar disorder. Sign up for one of his FREE Mini Courses on Bipolar by visiting FreeBipolarCourse.com.
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Overcoming Difficult People
by Alan Tutt
http://www.KeysToPower.com
Everywhere I turn lately, I find information to help deal with difficult people. My biggest reaction to all of it is this, why just deal with them when you can completely overcome them? Why just learn to tolerate being around those you can’t stand, when you have the option to either change them or get them out of your life completely!
Let me describe a situation that kind of sparked this whole thing. My girlfriend is a musician who does a lot of work for our church. One thing she did was to bring in another musician to add to the experience of the congregation, a guitar player who came in to play a few songs along with the keyboard and singers. Everything went well, until afterwards when he stormed out of the church without saying anything to anyone. Well, Linda met up with him later that day to pay him for his participation, and to find out what went wrong. At that point, he started “reading her the riot act” asking how could a church possibly be right if it didn’t preach this or that.
Linda tried to explain to this misguided guitar player that our church teaches things a little different from what he was used to, and that she had tried to explain that to him before bringing him into the church (he was from a very conservative, fire-and-brimstone kind of church). Our church is one that teaches acceptance of others, living peacefully, and living the principles taught by the great teacher, Christ.
The difficult guitar player had a problem that the minister didn’t even mention the name of the great teacher, although the lesson was clearly one that follows the teachings. For over an hour, Linda tried to tell this person that she accepted the fact that he believed things should have been different, and that she felt no need to convince him of anything. He, on the other hand, felt very compelled to point out “the error of her ways”. In short, he was being very difficult.
If I had been there, I would have been able to take care of the situation, but it reminded me that there are specific techniques to use in order to get someone else to come around to your way of thinking. And when this is impossible, you can always get the other person to not be so difficult. That is what I would like to share with you today.
There are two basic strategies for overcoming a difficult person. One is passive and the other is active. The passive strategy is one that has been taught by great motivational leaders throughout history. Christ phrased it this way, “If your enemy strikes you on the cheek, offer him the other cheek as well.” This does not mean that you actually ask to be beaten, but that you do not resist the attack. Gandhi also taught the path of no resistance.
With many personalities, if you don’t fight back, then they realize that they cannot “get a rise” out of you and move on to someone they can intimidate. This works best when the difficult person is being difficult as a means of ‘proving’ that they are strong and powerful. And this is usually the case when you have someone who feels very insecure about his or her own identity. In Linda’s case above, this was the tactic she tried to use, but it failed because the difficult person was not acting from a standpoint of insecurity.
In Linda’s case, she was trying to overcome a person who had a strong need to be right. With this kind of personality, resistance or not, they will continue to fight for what they believe is the right course of action. Religious wars have been all too common, and many political wars have been based on the same theme. In our lives, we usually don’t pursue the conflict long enough for it to escalate into an all-out war. When you find yourself in this kind of situation, you need to take an active approach to overcoming the difficult person.
The active approach has a few aspects that may be applied during the course of the encounter. The first aspect, which must be applied right from the start, and all through the encounter, is to communicate to the difficult person that they are fighting a losing battle. No matter what they try to say or do, they will not convince you to become any different than you are. Now this will not be something you say outright. If you do, then you are throwing out a challenge, and difficult people always love challenges. Don’t make the situation any more difficult than it is already. Instead, you will implement the second aspect of the active approach.
The second aspect is to engage the difficult person as though the two of you are on the same side, and not adversaries at all. Find common ground, and make sure that everything you say relates to that common ground the two of you share. Battles of all kinds are all based on differences, not on similarities and commonalities. Salespeople (if they are any good) all know that stressing the things you have in common with the other person makes that person like you more. Part of the active approach to overcoming difficult people is to turn that enemy into a friend. How often do you fight with your friends?
The third aspect of this approach is the most difficult, and requires an intimate knowledge of the other person’s viewpoint. And even if you know for a fact that you know the other person’s viewpoint inside and out, ask that difficult person to explain what they are thinking. This will do a couple of things for you. One, it will give this person an outlet for their energy. The more they talk, the less energy they have to fight with. It also makes them feel as if they have accomplished something. They’ve gotten their point across.
It will also give you the information you need to bring this person around to your way of thinking. There is a great truth that the only way to lead a horse to water is one step at a time. You have to start where the horse is! The same is true when persuading anyone to do anything. Whether you are trying to persuade your boss to give you a raise, your lover to go along with your plans, your kids to behave as you wish they would, or a difficult person to leave you alone, you always have to start where they are.
There’s one more thing that letting the difficult person talk could do for you. There is always the possibility that you could learn something new. Maybe you had never seen things the way this person sees them. Maybe from another perspective, the world could be seen as flat, or the sun revolves around the Earth, or your religion could become more effective in reaching its followers.
Benjamin Franklin, who has been acknowledged as a very wise man by many, learned that there were many times when he was mistaken about certain facts, and that he didn’t know everything. If you’re honest with yourself, you will find that you are not always right about everything either, right? Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to put up with a difficult person, but it gives you the next aspect of the active process to overcome them.
Placing a seed of doubt into the mind of your difficult person is the first step to moving them from where they are now to where you want them to be. They have to admit that they don’t know everything, and that they could be mistaken about just about anything. Even if you get no further than this, you can usually convince the difficult person to not be so difficult. You want them to start to think that they could be wrong, and that you could be right. Unfortunately, you can’t just say this to them, but you need to ask questions that will lead them to this thought.
If you find that you’ve gotten this far with your difficult person, then you could continue to ask questions (they lead thoughts so much better than flat statements, don’t you agree?) that will cause their mind to take one step at a time over to your way of thinking. Just remember that small steps work much better than giant leaps. Any small step that leads them closer to you is good. And also remember that most people resist any change; so don’t expect a complete reversal within minutes.
The only other thing I can say here in this short article is that those in the Keys To Power system learn even more methods which help change other people’s thinking and behavior. And they learn methods of keeping difficult people out of their lives completely, so they never have to overcome them in the first place.
I hope that I have given you some new tools to use in making your life easier. Use them with joy, and with Power!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Alan Tutt is the creator of the phenomenally popular Keys To Power Mastery System available from http://www.KeysToPower.com. Become the Arnold Schwarzenegger of Mind Power using the Keys To Power Mastery System, and get everything you want in life.
While ecotourism and tourism seem to be similar, there is a different between them. Does it mean that the statement: “Ecotourism in tourism” is false? Not exactly, you see, one is a more specific term than the other. Let me explain it in a more detailed fashion.
What is ecotourism?
Ecotourism is a form of tourism. You see, like in tourism, it reaches some of the same goals which are educational and entertaining. Contrary to tourism, animal life such as dolphins is observed in its natural habitat instead of an artificial setting created by humans such as an aquarium.
The educational goal is mainly to teach tourists about the characteristics, the habits, the habitat and the dangers affecting the wildlife. The entertainment is offered by exciting and surprising appearances and sometimes displays of animals in the wild. For example, tourists can observe a pod of dolphins playing together during a dolphin watching tour.
This form of tourism has been used for centuries but it has recently reached a new level of interest amongst tourists which explains a higher rate of tourists exploring ecotourism. This type of link is the reason which some people are asking: “Is ecotourism in tourism?”
What is tourism?
Tourism is a way to invite visitors to explore the area under different angles, for example during tours. This is also considered an important part of the national economic industry of a country. Tourism is a more general term that includes a variety of ways to educate and entertain tourists, in both natural and artificial settings.
For example, in ecotourism, you may observe dolphins in their natural habitat while in tourism, you may either observe them perform in a show offered by a local aquarium or again, swim with trained dolphins in a man-made lagoon. So is ecotourism in tourism? Let’s explore this question a little further.
Is ecotourism part of tourism?
While some people say that these are two different things, several aspects tend to indicate that ecotourism is part of the large family of tourism. Which are these aspects? Here are a few of them.
1. Both gain profits from the patronage of tourists.
2. Both may use tours to educate and/or entertain visitors.
3. Both require a permit.
4. Both must pay dividends to the government under the Tourism Industry.
5. Both include tours of wildlife, one in their natural habitat, and the other in a man-made setting.
6. Both must follow safety regulations.
7. Both require guidance from professionals.
8. Both allow the use of cameras unless safety is an issue.
What are the main differences between ecotourism and tourism?
These two terms are both similar but do have their differences. Let’s compare tourism in an aquarium during a show and ecotourism during a dolphin watching tour, in their natural habitat.
1. Trained dolphins are captured, sometimes in cruel ways, put in a limited space and forced to perform for food. Some even are highly stressed or die of depression.
2. Dolphins in the wild are free; they are not separated from their pod but face dangers such as predators, fishermen, nets, pollution and more.
3. Chumming is a method often used to attract marine life. Unfortunately, it also attracts sharks and has been held responsible for the presence of sharks rising in beaches areas.
4. Feeding dolphins in the wild can create problems if dolphins start depending on it. Feeding in man-made surroundings make their natural instinct as a hunter disappears and they become solely dependent on humans. Worse, they must often perform tricks to be fed properly.
5. Some cheap businesses claiming to be in the ecotourism industry may disturb and negatively affect dolphins and their natural habitat.
6. Some organizations consider the use of dolphins for therapy, entertainment or other form of tourist activity such as swimming with dolphins is a form of slavery and animal exploitation.
7. Some trainers use abusive methods while training dolphins.
8. During a dolphin watching tour, some tourists will feed dolphins certain items that may endanger the dolphins’ safety as a “joke”.
9. Some environmentalists say that nature should be left alone and that it is wrong to exploit it in the name of profit.
What is the answer?
The answer is this one. Ecotourism in tourism is a correct statement as ecotourism is part of the tourism industry. It is a certain specialty that is exploited in the name of tourism to give tourists the opportunity to learn, observe and enjoy wildlife in their natural habitat. Is it wrong to enjoy a dolphin watching tour? The answer is: “No!” As long as the company that offers you such an opportunity follows the safety rules, has a permit, a professionally trained staff and follows legal regulations as well as respect the natural habitat of the dolphins and other marine life, it is safe to say: “Why not enjoy such a fantastic opportunity?”
My name is Sylvie Leochko. I love dolphins and everything about them. My love of this topic is the main reason why I wish to share a few things with you. If you wish to learn more about this topic, I invite you to go to my website: http://dolphins-and-more.com or read a few informative news and articles on my blog: http://facts-about-dolphins.blogspot.com
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I am talking about men between 40 and 65 more or less. I know men who have been married for forty miserable years to the wrong woman. I know men who are co-dependent on the old bag of their nightmares.
Have you lost that loving feeling with the same old wife? Does her sex drive not match yours any more? But, would you want to have sex with the fat old bag anyway?
Are you ready for a change? Are you ready for sexual encounters with the young, sexy erotic, romantic, loving girls of your dreams? Gentlemen, we are not going to live forever if you ever want to make up for lost time you have to do it now. If you are one of the lucky ones who has the money to make your get away you should do it now. What are you going to do stick around and work in the business you probably hate or are you going to make a break for a Caribbean island and hang out in Margarativille on the beach with dream girls and the world’s top senior playboy who currently has over 1000 sexy girls! OK, you may not want the most girlfriends of any man on earth like Elvis Preston King has but why not get your fair share? Quit suppressing your real sexual desires. Monogamy is not a natural thing.
I have learned that as we grow older money helps with our sex appeal. If you are one of the fortunate ones who has a little money and has the opportunity to be a sugar daddy you are only robbing yourself if you are too cheap to cut loose with a little cash for the company of your young baby dolls. I am not saying it’s all about money. I am a 55 year old man I have one 18 year old girl who is like a model from Vogue with stand up straight tittys and pink nipples that talk to you. I tell her please look for a rich man who can treat you the way you deserve to be treated and she just won’t go. How do you figure that?
I have a unique story in that I have always been that rare guy who gets the girls. All of my life I have had this talent. Even though I have the natural God given talent to pick up girls I still took the time to read every book ever written on how to pick up and seduce girls. Admittedly I am better than most of their authors, but I got a couple pointers from one or two of those guys.
However, as I began to turn about 45 years old young girls in the U.S wouldn’t give me the time of day let alone a date. So I proceeded to the library and ask the librarian for books on locations where younger women love the older man. Sure enough there were books and I grabbed my air ticket to these exotic tropical locations and have never looked back.
I never meant to become the top playboy in the world, but yes I literally hold the world’s record of the most girlfriends of any man on earth.
I am looking for one gentlemen friend who is fed up with being miserable in his situation who would like to join me in my fantasy life of girls! girls! girls! The life that is worth selling your soul to the devil for.
About the Author
Elvis Preston King is the world’s most renowned and respected playboy. His job is picking up and seducing classy young women globally for the gentleman conoseiur who realizes that there is more to life than just accumulating money and the same old same old boring wife. You can email him at dateplaymate@yahoo.com.au or visit bachelortours.blogspot.com/ and http:www.msnusers.com/BachelorDreamTours
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Were you once a successful, professional woman who had a significant status level and received adequate remuneration for your work?
Have you re-located to a new country where the educational degree you worked so hard to achieve is neither recognized nor considered valid?
As a result, have you now settled for a job for which you are overqualified and living paycheck to paycheck?
If you once had a successful professional career and answered yes to the above, you probaby understand how frustrating it is, to be unable to practice your profession in a new country.
The decision to immigrate to another country is a courageous act which involves leaving everything that you know and everything that makes up who you are. It usually means starting over, making changes and finding a new job or career.
As a skilled professional woman, you already have a unique combination of marketable skills and experiences, optimism about your future prospects in the new country, education, commitment and motivation to work in your field of expertise, language ability and a desire to learn new things expertise…so, it’s really puzzling and shocking when you suddenly find yourself unemployed or unable to find a job in your field.
It is therefore important that you wake up from your slumber and do something about making your life a success.
To start making something of your life in a new country, you need to:
1. Stop being in denial.
Accept change and be ready to change! Your past successful life is always going to be a part of you and no one can take that away from you. However, the rules of the game in the new country may mean that you may no longer be the successful, lawyer, doctor, CEO or professional you once were.
As painful as it may be to accept…don’t spend your days talking about who you were in the past and dwelling in the glory of your past success. Don’t live in denial any longer than you must. Accept the fact that your circumstances have changed and start looking for constructive ways to make the best of your life in the new country.
2. Take a stand for your life.
When people move to a new country, they usually want to live in a place where they have some contacts, relatives or friends. However, some of these people you know, may have resigned themselves to living unfulfilled lives and may try to prevent you (by their comments or actions) from expecting more for yourself.
If you want to make a success of your life, you must take a risk, go against the negative majority, choose to be different and take a stand for a positive future. The decision to get out from among people, who will hold you back from doing something with your life, is worth it!
3. Don’t lose your sense of self-worth.
Your professional occupation is a large part of your identity and an integral part of your life. However if you have settled for less and are now overqualified for your job, you may feel that the work you are doing is not a valuable contribution to society. As a result, you may start questioning yourself and feeling worthless.
You are not worthless! Find meaning and purpose in what you want to do and begin to pursue it with vigor. After counting the cost, make the decision to do what you have to do to make your life a success. Stop settling for less than you deserve, start standing up for yourself and for your dignity.
4. Stop being invisible.
If you were used to being recognized by members of your community who were aware of your professional merits, you may be feeling very “anonymous” in the new country.
If you were previously a highly active, social and professional woman, don’t chose jobs that will relegate you to the back office and hide you behind a pile of meaningless paperwork. Look for a job that projects your social qualities and allows you to interact more visibly.
Find a career that allows you to fully utilize your skills. This could mean starting your own business, finding a new career, going back to school or finding means and ways to become actively involved with people in your profession in the new country or abroad.
5. Be informed about the work culture of the new country.
This may seem pretty basic but it should not be taken for granted. If you want to get ahead you must stop running around like a headless chicken and begin to familiarize yourself with the lifestyle, culture and work ethics of the new country. For instance, do you understand the work place terminology? What kind of transferable/employable skills do you need? Do employers require curriculum vitae or resumes? What is the academic equivalent of the professional qualification you hold?
Sometimes the hardship you are facing is not brought about by you as a person but by your lack of research on the basics. Make the adjustment easier for yourself by tailoring your life to fit into the new place and not vice versa.
6. Increase your social networks.
There is always a close connection between one’s occupation and social status. When you are unable to transfer the occupation that you once held to the new country you now live in, you also lose social status. It is therefore important to have a network of people that you can trust and depend on.
You can have personal networks like friendship groups and social organizations and also join and actively participate in professional associations, community networks and support groups that are involved with issues that interest you. These networks also play a useful role in combating the feeling of being alone in a new place and can also be good idea or lead generators for a new job.
7. Don’t be complacent…do something!
Don’t wallow in self-pity. Hold on to your dreams and your goals. Work steadily and take risks to achieve them. Persevere and be resilient. Do what you have to do, to ensure that you make a success of your new life.
Be strong! Although there are many barriers to be overcome in a new country, let not your spirit be tarnished. Look within yourself for the strength to move forward with your life. With a positive attitude, you will find that there are a lot of things that can bring you ultimate success.
Caroline Jalango is a life coach for unstoppable women who are willing to step up to the plate and take a shot at living exceptional lives wherever they are.
www.motivationzone.com
Caroline@motivationzone.com
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Ambrotose is used as a nutritional supplement. It helps your body’s immune system and aids in digestion. It is a derivative of the Aloe Vera plant. The Aloe Vera has been known for centuries for its healing powers.
The 4 elements of a healthy body are:
1.Amino acids and proteins
2.Fatty acids and nucleic acids
3.Vitamins, minerals and trace elements
4.Carbohydrates
Today we will talk about the group of elements known as Carbohydrates:
For years many people thought that protein was the most critical element needed for the body to heal itself. However now research has uncovered a new ingredient in the mix. Carbohydrates. In recent years carbohydrates have been studied minutely this study is called glycobiology. This study has given rise to the emergence of important saccharides needed by our body known a Glyconutrients.
Carbohydrates and sugars are taken in by the body and then broken down into simple sugars. The body uses these sugars to produce energy. This is the single function that carbohydrates and sugars have. This fact was what scientists have thought for a long time. However new research has been conducted on carbohydrates and has proved some surprising factors about this group of saccharides.
Why does your body need Glyconutrients?
Due to several factors our food is not supplying us with enough of this critical nutrient known as Glyconutrients. These factors include changes in the environment, green harvesting and general bad eating habits. Stress can also play a part in contributing to our decline in health.
It can take a number of years for the body to show signs of deterioration but eventually this will lead to a decline in your health. Often the onset is insidious and you are not aware of the gradual downward turn in health. However over a period of time you will see that you are not as healthy as you could be and sometimes it is hard to know why. Many times this general weakening in health is due to the fact you are getting less Glyconutrients.
How do these Glyconutrients work?
The body’s important binding and signaling receptors of the cells is made up of glycoprotein (sugars and proteins) these sugars are the saccharides known as Glyconutrients. These nutrients are essential to communication between the body’s cells. Glyconutrients have been found to increase the activity of certain enzymes. These enzymes are used as blocking agents, which prevent toxins and harmful bacteria or viruses from penetrating the cells. The enzymes also act as suppression agents, stopping abnormal development in cells.
Ambrotose as a health supplement: How can it help you?
Mannatech has developed a supplement called Ambrotose Complex.
Ambrotose is a nutritional supplement, which provides Glyconutrients to the body it was developed in 1996 and is growing in popularity as a nutritional supplement.
As more research is done on Glyconutrients, Ambrotose will be seen as an increasingly important health supplement necessary for the maintenance of your health and well being. You will not only feel better when you take this supplement you will be able to enjoy a more active and fulfilling life.
Note: Glyconutrients nor Ambrotose are not intended to heal, treat, or cure any disease.
Zach Thompson is a Glyconutrients Consultant. His clients range from pro athletes and actresses, to cancer patients and children with Learning Disabilities. To learn if glyconutrients can help you, visit: http://www.nutritionalreview.com/79.php
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